Sex is considered to be a very taboo subject, despite the fact that it is literally one of the most natural processes in the world. Need evidence of this? Just stop to consider the fact that you, I, and everybody else we know in the world, is here because of that three-letter word S-E-X. I’m partial to romantic night in with my husband, and I’m not ashamed to say that either. We’ve been married for nearly two decades now, and neither of us is getting any younger. Despite this however, our sex life nowadays is better than it was ten years back when we were in our thirties. So, what changed? Well, after enjoying a healthy sex life, we both found that our sex life was slowing down, until it almost became non-existent. We went months without sex, and I started to think it was me. I started to do my makeup, I dressed sexier, and I even purchased some new lingerie. Nothing changed. Eventually, after doing some research, I found that a lack of exercise could be to blame. We both took up a healthy lifestyle and regular exercise regime, and our sex life soon became better than ever. But why? Well, here’s a look at several key benefits of exercise you can expect to enjoy, in relation to your sex life and libido.

Exercise boosted my confidence

One of the best things about working out and exercising regularly for me, was the fact that it boosted my confidence. I’m not ashamed to admit that years of being married and working a sedentary job had meant that I was carrying a few extra pounds. I wasn’t what many people would call fat, but I certainly did not feel confident or sexy in my own skin. I would often wear black because it is a slimming colour, and would opt for baggy clothes that ironically made me look bigger. After cleaning up my diet and exercising regularly at the gym however, I started to notice the weight dropping, I was losing inches, and my confidence was growing. After a few months I was back to what experts would call a “healthy weight” and a few months after that I was the smallest I’d been since I was a student. I also found that through lifting weights and utilizing resistance training, I was not only losing fat, I was also toning up. In my mid-forties, I was in far better shape than I’d been in my twenties. I looked great and I felt great. I dressed sexier, and as my confidence grew, I became more adventurous in the bedroom.

Working out boosted my mood

It is a well-known fact that exercise is one of the best anti-depressants that you could ever wish for. Years of junk food, excess alcohol, and a lack of sex had left me feeling pretty down in the dumps. If you feel low and depressed, the last thing you want to do is think about having sex. Exercise soon sorted that out for me however. Exercise promotes the production and secretion of hormones and neurotransmitters such as dopamine, serotonin, melatonin, and endorphins, which we call ‘happy chemicals’. The more of these chemicals we produce, the happier we feel. I found myself feeling happier, which meant I became open to more things, I became more active, and found myself having sex with my husband more often.

Exercise boosts circulation

Poor circulation, amongst many things, has been linked with sexual dysfunction and a suppressed libido. Exercise however, has been proven to boost circulation. But how does good circulation improve your sex life? Well, when we become aroused, oxygenated blood rushes to the genitalia. This is true in men and women. The more blood that reaches these areas, the more aroused we become. Men can benefit from good circulation especially well, because they achieve erections when blood reaches the erectile tissue. The more blood that reaches the tissue, the more pronounced the erection becomes, and the longer he will be able to sustain it for. Forget Viagra, when it comes to erectile dysfunction, exercise is a proven treatment.

Exercise improved my performance

Without going into too much detail, my husband and myself weren’t overly adventurous in the bedroom. We knew what we liked, and on the rare occasions when we did have sex, we knew the routine like the backs of our hands. We all have our favourite positions and techniques, but sometimes it does pay to try new things. This is where exercise helped us both. You see, exercise helps promote increases in stamina and endurance, so the fitter you are, the longer you can perform at an intense pace, before you begin to tire out. Not only that, but as I performed yoga and stretching exercises, my flexibility also improved dramatically. Trust me, ladies, being flexible will improve your sex life no end, so dust off those Yoga mats and get practicing your downward dog. Oh, and you can take your minds out of the gutters, because the downward dog is actually a well-known yoga pose, not what you’re thinking!