Mundance dating app chats can be so repetitive. Ready to scream if you get one more “What’s up?” Claire Certain, dating expert at happn, shares her tips for getting hot-bod Tom, 28, hooked on your conversation.
“Act fast. Start up a conversation as soon as you connect on an app,” Certain says. Don’t let the match just sit, and definitely don’t wait for them to message you first, take the initiative. If you play hard to get, you’ll just disappear in the endless list of Brittanys and Sarahs.
DON’T OVERTHINK IT
“Send a message, any message,” she says. “People spend a lot of time trying to come up with the perfect one-liner, or worse, they use the same tried and tested line on everyone they connect with. This comes off as exactly what it is – a line.”
“Talk about anything but the obvious. When initiating contact with someone, don’t resort to the easy conversation starter,” Certain says. “Instead, personalize your message. If there’s a guy with his dog one of his pics, start with ‘Cute Pup!’ This will create a natural chat instead of just ‘What’s up?’ “.
Essentially, pick up on the clues in their profile to spark a more captivating convo, people love to talk about themselves. Unless, of course, they’ve just got a few group photos and no bio – boy, bye.